40 rules of love

The Forty Rules of Love is a book inspired by the Rumi’s message of love and companionship with his spiritual partner Shams of Tabriz. The book is written by Turkish female author Elif Shafak and she explained the message in a wonderful way that has a long lasting impact on the minds of readers. We have assembled a list of quotes from the book that will surely encourage you to read and understand the message hidden in the book.


“Some people make the mistake of confusing ‘submission’ with ‘weakness,’ whereas it is anything but. Submission is a form of peaceful acceptance of the terms of the universe, including the things we are currently unable to change or comprehend.”

“Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven’t loved enough.”

“The words that come out of our mouths do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space, and they will come back to us in due time.”

“What we need is sincere self-examination. Not being on the watch for the fault of others.”

“Do not go with the flow. Be the flow.”

“I hunt everywhere for a life worth living and a knowledge worth knowing. Having roots nowhere, I have everywhere to go.”

“You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for Him: in the heart of a true lover.”

“Finally I understood that whenever people heard something unusual, they called it a dream”

“Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That’s the hardest part and that’s what you are responsible for.”

“Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come”

“No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey a journey within.”

“Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely.”

“Be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses”

“Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.”

“A life without love is of no account… Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple. Love is the water of life. And a lover is a soul of fire. The universe turns differently when fire loves water.”


“The real challenge is to love the good and the bad together, not because you need to take the rough with the smooth but because you need to go beyond such descriptions and accept love in its entirety.”

“Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain unreciprocated.”

“You can purify your body through fasting and abstinence, but only love will purify your heart.”

“Quit worrying about hell or dreaming about heaven, as they are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate, envy, or fight someone, we tumble straight into the fires of hell.”

“At every moment and with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one-way to be born into a new life: to die before death.”

“Just as clay needs to go through intense heat to become strong, Love can only be perfected in pain.”

“Where there is love, there is bound to be heartache.”

“Your destiny is the level where you will play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well you play is entirely in your hands.”

“The quest for Love changes us. There is no seeker among those who search for Love who has not matured on the way. The moment you start looking for Love, you start to change within and without.”

“If you want to experience eternal illumination, put the past and the future out of your mind and remain within the present moment”

This is our list of quotes if you have any other quote related to the topic, please share in the comments below.

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